Here is why I have an issue with the no contact letter... and please slap me around if I need to see things differently:

I do not want to force my husband to choose me. I do not want him to make his decision to stay married to me out of obligation or coersion.

I would rather be on my own and alone for the rest of my life than demand he puts effort into our marriage.

Once he does make the concrete decision, then I will ask for no contact and a no contact letter, but until then I'd feel like I was forcing his hand.

Does that make sense?

M: 37
H: 36
Married: Aug 13, 2004
Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008
Reconciled: September 2008
Current: Ambivalence