Oh I understand completely about you needing to focus on what are faced with right now. I was talking about later when you felt you could still come here. In a way, it could be like picking at a sore by coming here. I think it works differenly with individuals. My H would not cooperate in going to MC, so it was my therapy to continue on the board.

I can almost feel your dreaded news for the kids. Are you going to tell them or have her tell them in front of you?

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If she was so unwilling/unable to communicate to me that there were still problems and what she needed while appearing to be committed...then were we really close? Not sure how I could trust a reconcilliation effort in the future?


I can only imagine how that mujst make you feel. I would think a lot of hurt, anger, disappointment....a lot tied together. I believe she meant to reconcile. When it all hit her and she was begging for another chance...I think she was serious and had good intentions at the time. But as the weeks passed by....she couldn't handle the pull of the EA. It is so unbelievable!

I was surfing the TV last night and got on the end of a program of how infidelity affects men. I wished I had heard the entire program. I have learned a lot from you men here on the board. When you are ready, others will learn a lot from you.

My prayers continue to be with you, GW. I will certainly be praying for the girls, also.

((hugs))

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!