My W and I have two vehicles, a small SUV, which can't accomodate the 4 kids, and a van that does. I have always said, whoever has the kids has the van in the event of an emergency, the van is necessary to transport. W doesn't like that arrangement, because she has to drive to my house and switch after her shift at work. She'd rather just drop the kids at 2pm and not be bothered until pickup at 7am. My guess is it cuts into her personal time.

So I go out to exchange vehicles today, and I told W to leave the van, since I had the kids and might take them somewhere. She got pissed as usually and handed me the baby like she's shoving a bag of groceries into my hands. Totally uncalled for. I just smiled at baby and hugged and kissed her. Talked and laughed at D3, who was telling me something. I kept my upbeat attitude and acted "As If"... I think I'm getting the hang of this. So I took kids inside and went out to move the van into the carport. I said have a good day to W, but got no response just the car door shutting.

Got another message on my answering machine indicating she scheduled another IC session, but I see no positive change yet. This last month the best "baby step" I've noticed was eye contact and maybe a have a good day. 95% of the time it's been no response with a GFY attitude from her.

I'm still GAL, planning a skiing trip next month... nearby. I miss that stuff and should be fun. Also plan on taking an actual trip outa state soon. I definitely deserve a vacation... ALONE! I must admit, focusing on me on occassion is quite nice, no worrying about accomodating someone else or merring their COUNTLESS needs. smile I still prefer married life / family life, but the freedom I have right now is great too.

Me:39 W:31 M:8
D6,3,19mo S5
I filed D 07-2010