New to this community seeking advice 2

[Denver_2010]

JR09:

Time to get some backbone. How long has it been 2 years+. Time to forget what she thinks. It is about what you think. You need to be mentally healthy for your sons. You need to get to a decision so that you can get there. That is when the healing begins. Look, I was in the same spot for a year. My W wouldn't file. I did. It was the best thing I ever did. I healed. My sons are healing. I have 50/50 time with them. Joint Parenting. We live a mile apart from each other. I coach football, baseball, basketball. My divorce should be final in January. I met someone via eharmony. Your life will get better, but you have to start the process.

I never knew how bad things were in my marriage. Do you really want to go back to a marriage where things will be that unhappy. You will back on this board in 6 months when the marriage goes sideways again. I was the guy that said no to divorce. Stay together for kids at all costs. You know what, having a happy mother and father is a much better option than a mother and father that are not happy.

I was happily married, so I thought, until she dropped the bomb. Turns out she did me a favor. I look back at the 15 years of marriage and I see how are marriage got to this place. I wanted to try, she didn't. OK, but I was not going to be a doormat for her any longer. I lost respect for myself during the process.

It is time for you pick yourself up, get this done, start living your life again for you and your sons. She is gone, move on...

Don't know if I'd agree to all that. I wouldn't give up on M unless you are ready. I'm just saying that you need to protect yourself.