Lastly, and again, other may disagree with this opinion. But physical separation may be necessary for anything to move forward in your M. Others suggest avoiding that as long is possible is the best way, but I can tell you that my W and I were separated but living in same home for months prior to her leaving and nothing got better. It only got worse. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, or so they say. I think that your W needs to have an opportunity to miss you and the positives that you bring to her life. Besides, can you really stand it that she has OM and is living in same home as you? I know that I couldn't. I would tell her to leave ASAP and help her pack. I'm not suggesting that you become cold or mean to W. "Lovingly detach" from whatever it is she is going through in her life right now.
This will probably drive her closer to OM. I know that my W leaving has done that. I've read on here, that this can actually be a good thing bc it puts their R more in the realm of reality and takes it out of your W's fantasy realm. I can definitely see where it may speed up the end of an A. Of course there is always the possibility that it does the opposite. Just a risk we have to take I guess.
Good luck. Keep posting.
I disagree and agree. Don't move out. The risk outweighs the benefit. DO the LRT--dont' be predictable.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
