What happens to the WAS after D?

[ClingingToHope]

....."CTH- not your thread, but you shouldn't be agreeing with that. You have been sitting around in this not divorced state, but separated for some time. You need to push yours along so you can finally heal for your sake, and your kids sake. If it stays on paper, it doesn't make you anymore married emotionally. It just keeps you stuck." ... GabbysMom

I think I'm healing fine and 10 years from now when the D comes up, and it will, I'll be able to say to the girls that I did not want the divorce, I did nothing to move it along. I don't feel stuck anymore emotionally. Every day is an opportunity.

Look, in my case, for 15 years I've been "finishing things" for STBXW. She never completed anything. She'd hem and haw and come up with excuses and I'd step in at the last second and get things done. She wants a divorce, it's up to her to get one.

Everyone on here is different. I am comfortable with my action -- or lack of action.