Thanks BA, I think I just made a step in right direction anyway. STBXH is the team manager and booked both the kids out of town tournaments this year, (something we always looked forward to as a family), on weekends when I was scheduled to be out of the country. Something that caused a lot of arguing however he swears he didn't do it on purpose it was just a coincidence.
Oh well, who cares, joke it now on him cause I just rearranged my schedule to be able to make it back to the last day of their tournament in January. I had mentioned I may do this but I know he totally didn't expect me to. I'm actually going to Las Vegas for meetings and he certainly doesn't think I'd give up extra time in Vegas to attend kids hockey games. 180 that feels great and better yet, will make the kids feel great!
Feeling better about it already.
Me: 41 STBXH: 36 D: 11 S: 9 BOMB 12/2009 SEPARATED 5/2010 D SERVED BY ME 9/2010 FINAL D When I'm ready