wife preparing to leave me and kids

[sandi2]

I'm still a bit confused about what you want.

So, do you plan to include OM's W at time of confronting about the A? Is she the "we" you are referring to in this sentence?

So I was going to confront because we cannot see letting the A grow again.

As i have said I am on another forum because it is more active I like the advice here better.

Do you mean another message board?

I do not want to expose to their families.

There is certainly a difference in confronting her about lying and continuing the A from exposing her behavior to the families. Your family will not be happy and having health issues can be serious. However, the news will get out eventually. That is why you have to know what your goal is and how you plan to to act. You can't just go to the MC and tell your W you know what she's doing and leave it at that. That is giving her all the power. You have to decide to have the power in this R.

I'm not telling you which way to go and I think you may have misunderstood some of what I said before. That's okay b/c I know you are under a lot of stress. I just want you to think with a clear mind and not act out of emotions.

Some men can do what MWD