Sweetie, listen, there are no timelines for going through this. You get there when you get there.
But, it does help to try and change your mindset. And the only way to do that is to detach some more.Now that is easier said then done, but I know you can do it.
You start by focusing on you. You have to learn to see yourself for who you really are and how others see you. You are a strong, capable, compassionate loyal person.
When you have accepted all the wonderful things about yourself, you will begin to slowly see that what your h has done, and what he has said, really have no bearing on you and who you are.
That stuff is his. Your stuff is yours. Change the things about you that need changing. Learn to love the stuff that doesnt.
And cherish those people and things that bring you joy. Put your marriage and your h safely in a box and put it on a shelf.
And start to think about what makes you happy. YOU, IB. You are more than a wife. You are.
