On the other I know that I am beautiful, strong and that God will be there for me no matter what happens with my husband. We will see how the journey goes, but I think I have found the right place to vent and get information.
Good mindset to have. Remember this.
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I have been on this rollercoaster for about 2 months now
So how long do you plan to stay on this rollercoaster?
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I am not sure I can handle the long ride.
You will actually be surprised at how much you can handle. So how much can you handle? How much are willing to give?
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but sometimes it is so hurtful to hear him rewrite our history.
They all do. Guess what YOU do not have too though.
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Sitch currently is that I am trying to just remain friends
Just remember HIS definition of friends may very well be different. I have found that a friendship with an MLC works as long as YOU agree with everything they say. You may find that the friendship will change over time. Never lose yourself in the friendship.
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The problem is he stays for about an hour afterwards and it drives me crazy
You could always ask him to leave. What are you afraid of?
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I am nice to him because I want to tread lightly
Why tread lightly? Be nice because you want to NOT because you think it will result in something else. FYI…may come a time when nice is also accepting what YOU can and cannot live with.
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But how do I set a boundary here
HOW is not really the question….I believe the question should be WHY.
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So, I want to just let go and just take care of me.
And what is stopping you?
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Detaching is just so hard.
Hard is an understatement. It takes time…so be patient with yourself.
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He still hugs me when he leaves and I am just not sure if I should let this be happening?
Who the hel* know if IT should be happening. The question is DO YOU FEEL comfortable with it.
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The problem is I can't stand to be around him for long, because it just makes me uncomfortable.
Solution to the problem is simple……be around him as long as YOU can stand to. When you do not want to be around him – don’t.
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I have and am afraid I won't be able to hide it from his as well as I have been.
Afraid, fear, panic….all of these emotion can really mess with your head. I am sorry to say but you have two options…. 1) Run or 2) face them Which will you choose?
BTW, can you list your goals?
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
