Need Insight III

[InAPickle]

I'm getting s lot of conflicting advice about legal aspects.

Forum posters are telling me to consult an atty and find out my rights.

Lawyer's offices are telling me to wait and to not fire the first shot, also about my rights, they are what they are period.

Here's what I know:

W wants to put some distance between holidays and D.
If W really wants the D, there's nothing I can do to stop it.
The only thing that stands any chance of saving M is DB-ing.
As a LBS I can "request" court ordered MC if it comes to court.
The $2500 W charged to amex was most likely a "retainer" and she still must "decide" to preoceed.

Here's what I think is down the road:

I fully expect her next "talk" will be to try and convince me to use her atty together to save $$.
And I fully expect to tell her I will get my own atty after I am served (which I think I kinda did already)