WAW The cold & cruel truth 2

[ScaredinCanada]

I hear you Blessed. That's the biggest thing I struggle with...not re-acting to what she says.

Especially when she makes a hurtful comment, and then follows it with "I don't mean to hurt you." AHHHHHHH!

Like I said before, my W has not thought through seperation completely (possibly at all) which I guess is a good sign, but I have this sinking feeling that she's waiting until after the holidays to make some sort of "move".

She's told me over and over that she isn't going to take the kids away from me.

She just hurt me bad on Christmas day, saying "I feel bad that your putting everything into the R, but I'm putting in zero." To which she follows with "I don't understand how you expect me to change how I feel". I told her to have an open mind with regards to MC, to which she always replies with her classic line "Just because we goto C don't expect things to workout the way YOU want them too!"

I'm just really hoping we can get into counselling and she can really see that I'm changing for the better.

Just need to stay focused on detaching which is good some days and bad other days. I keep wondering if seperation might actually be the best reality check for her?

Blessed I'm not sure how much me talking helps or hurts, but I just feel so bad for you and your sitch. I want to use you as a example of how I should act, because my sitch could be worse.