Okay, thought I'd post about last night. H said I could come over after the kids were in bed (older D is 16 and besides his place and mine share a driveway). Anyway, he emailed early in the day to ask if I was coming over when they go to bed or earlier than that. So I go over when youngest D is ready for bed. I had just gotten 5 Love Languages so I talked to him about that a little and also asked about his day. We watched a movie and he made some drinks (neither of us drink much, I'm talking 2-3 times a year). I had asked him about physical touch while we discussed the book because he had gotten extremely uncomfortable with it by the time he moved out. He said he felt better about it because he didn't feel like it was a demand anymore. Well, lets just say we had a good time. He said I could come over on Saturday. I asked about Friday he said he was going over to watch some movies with some work friends so I think he is testing the waters to see how I'll react. I'm fine with that because I know how controlling I've been for so long. It will be a good way for me to work on patience and a good way for him to feel more comfortable that I've changed how I'll react to him having some time to himself. So that is where things are now. My plans today are to walk the dog, take youngest D roller skating and do some shopping. Sounds good to me!
