Deju vu, but new to the online forum...round 2

[Denver_2010]

MJ - I'm not sure that I'm qualified to give too strong of an opinion, but it sounds like you are doing what is best for your situation. I know that most people on this board suggest avoiding physical separation as long as possible. I'm not sure that that is always the best thing. My W and I were 'separated' but living in the same house for 6 months. We didn't actually acknoweldge it as a separation, and I'm not sure if it was me or her that was the WAS during that time. What I can say is that nothing got better during that time... at all. It wasn't until my W told me that she was actually leaving our home that I actually 'got it'. Now it might be too late; I acknowledge that. But nothing was going to change as long as we stayed in the same house. Now, I am doing my 180, GAL and applying LRT. My W's anger has seemed to subside somewhat over the past week or so. I recognize that W leaving the home was the best thing however this turns out bc our M isn't going to survive without some major changes on both our parts.

I guess what I'm saying is that you leaving the home may very well be the best thing that can happen for you M. Maybe she will 'get it' once your moving truck is pulling out of the driveway. It will give both of you the space and time necessary for you both to look at your own actions leading to the state of your M and to decide what each of you really wants.

I see a lot of people on here that are separated, but are still living in the same home. It seems to me that most are living in a perpetual state of limbo. I think that you are moving the game (and I hate to call it that) forward by leaving.