New to this community seeking advice 2

[JR09]

well, I'm here in ID with the Boys in our usual hotel. Having a great time. S11 invited his best friend to join us for a sleepover. Everyone is doing great.

I got here on Christmas day. Called W to ask her if I could have the Boys for the rest of Christmas day. It took some convincing but W finally relented and let me have the boys at 7:00PM

It's now 28 DEC. Today, I looked for an apartment in my W's hometown so I can be closer to the Boys. I told my W that's what I'd be doing. She called back later and said that if I move in her hometown, she'd move to Salt Lake with the Boys...I told her that was not responsible and that she needed to set aside her hate for me and think clearly. I told her it wasn't about her, but about the kids. She kept threatening about moving to SLC if I moved in her town. I said I don't do well with threats, intimidation.

So now, I don't know what to do. Shall I stick to my guns and keep that apartment in her hometown and risk antagonizing her enough that she'd take the kids away to SLC? Or should I just back off and look for a place 30 miles away in Boise? W is afraid that I'll have the kids every evening. I told her that's probably not how divorced people handle their parenting...

Anyway, who knows. feedback anyone?

Joel