Hey folks! Now I know what a "jumper" feels like. wink Everyone's encouragement just kind of makes me want to do something "crazy". wink wink wink FYI, XH emailed me today to confirm our TT game tomorrow. I phoned him on my way home from work to tell him something about his mother (he's having computer issues) and we talked like good friends about his mother for 30 minutes........so another example of how much difference one year can make.

I was thinking today about how different my interactions with XH are now compared to when he was pushing for D so I thought that my posting this might be helpful to someone out there. Once XH was in a position where he couldn't blame me for his unhappiness (after the D) he stopped...........Now.......... my H/XH wasn't mean (just angry) and I know that many of the WASs out there are mean, but this observation may also apply to them.

Last week XH said something interesting to me. He told me that he thinks he paid too much for the house he bought 8 months after the bomb (BMF was XH's real estate agent) and now he has leaks in the ceilings of 3 rooms from ice dams. He had the same problem last winter..........The interesting thing he said was "I paid too much for that house but I HAD to buy it" (as in "I needed a place to live"). That is a snapshot into the WASs brain. One month before H/XH signed his purchase agreement on that house in 2009 I received a text from him at 1AM. It said something like "Please release me!" (as in "I can't stand living here with my mother anymore. Please settle the D with me so I can move into my own place".) I was so frustrated that I called his phone the next morning and left a VM reminding him that he had lots of options other than living at his mother's, including living in our house in a different bedroom, living in an apartment, or staying with friends............Fast forward 2 years.....XH is feeling that he was taken advantage of when buying his new house AND his bachelor pad with the master bedroom suite with cathedral ceilings in leaking everywhere.

In my case the expression "time is on your side" seems to be true.

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