H's MLC - finding compassion and forgiveness

[Mila]

SA, Snodderly, Being, walking, CW, Antonia, Punkin & Kissak thank you all for your moral support...I'm calm now...I was thinking about what upset me the most about it....yeah his cake eating for sure, his disregard for D's feelings and also I felt like the OW was "stealing" my family....first my H and now trying to get into my D's life as well....it just hurts.....

Walking - thank you for your insightful post...very well put and on intellectual level I understand what may be going on in H's MLC mind, and why he does what he does....but on emotional level is still gets to me sometimes....especially when it affects my D....I guess it's my motherly instinct to protect her from H's craziness....

But I feel OK today...it is what it is and there is nothing I can do about it....but if he continues his cake eating I will have to draw the line again....

I had a great "lunch date" with a male friend, then we had a nice walk on the beach and H calls....I didn't pick-up. Called him back later....Funny story actually. Couple of days before Xmas my crown fell out and my dentist was on Xmas vacation, so had to go and find someone else who would fix it over the holidays...mentioned it to H when he was here on Xmas Eve....so he calls me today to tell me that HIS crown fell out....what are the odds of that?....I just laughed into the phone...for some reason I found it funny...also found funny that he has OW there and he calls his wife to tell her that and asking me what to do...in a whiny voice...so had to give him the name of the dentist that I found for myself....wished him good luck and hang up....I think that he was surprised when I started laughing....also does he really think that I'll always be there for him when he wants something, when he needs help while he treats me like crap?...my gosh I really feel like his mother....

Have to run to prepare for tonight...have friends coming over....