OM keeps telling his W that he wants to save the M. She was going to begin letting him know that it really felt
What does that mean? How did she plan to do that?
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So if I want to save this M back way off again monitor the emails gal 180+ no. R talk make home warm and welcome make the OM less appealing to talk to. By me being the more appealing and not pursuing
I agree with backing off. If you have proof that an EA took place, then I would suggest that you do NOT continue to read their emails....b/c that will keep you pulled down and discouraged from DBing. Perhaps you need to reread that part in the DR book about monitoring. I agree with GAL,180's, and no R talk.
Make home warm & welcome......? Would that be a 180 for you or pursuing? Make OM less appealing to talk to......? I don't think you can make appealing or non-appealing about OM(to her), all you can do is affect what you are.
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They are in active email contact complaining aboug us how the EA Started. If it continues we will confront.
They will continue. So, have you placed a date on "when" you will confront, or will you proceed with becoming a better man aNd happier with yourself? It's your decision and I'm just trying to get you to think more than just one way. What can you live with and what can't you live without? This is what every person has to decide for themselves.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
