I agree with MrBond. Let it play. Build some positive times together and experiences; let her know that she is free to choose what she wants to do. Anything else will only result in more resentment or efforts to pull away.

With my WAH, it got to the point where everything about our place was wrong. He got headaches from being in our apartment, so he needed to be away more. It was ridiculous. I just let him go and do his thing. Now, he can't stay away from me or our place. Go figure.

Me: 33, H: 32
M: 12 years T: 13 years
No kids
D-Day: 7/2009
Separated: 10/12/10
Future Unknown
GITS

"There's a fire starting in my heart, reaching a fever pitch and it's bringing me out the dark." - Adele