Had meeting with WAS. Discussed perspectives. How that they are like being witness to a traffic collision. Depending on where you're standing and what obstacles are in your way your narrative may completely differ from another witness' narrative; that your perspective is not necessarily the truth, but it's true for you> That being able to share/compare perspectives is a way of getting a reality check. I asked him to please give me his perspectives as a reality check for me. He didn't have too much to say, he finds it difficult to talk to me.
Overall a good meeting. Laid out four significant points that were important to me and that I needed to say and he needed to hear. I had a consultation before this encounter with my counselor and he agreed, but also said to put a time limit on how long I am prepared to live this way. I didn't as when I finished laying the points out WAS was emotional and upset and I didn't want to overload him.
1) He breached out marriage contract. 2)There were ten things spouses were entitiled to in marriage (loyalty, protection,affection,partnership,caregiving,support,companionship,freedom, communication,respect),and that I was only getting a few of those things at present. 3) Love is a choice and decision, it's also an action word meaning giving of oneself, and he appeared to be unable to give - or want/recieve my gifts of love. 4) I wasn't prepared to keep on living my life without comapnionship, affection, love or sex.
At one point in the meeting he said he's never hurt our kids. I told him from that my POV, he already had. I guess he can't see that.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
