I haven't updated in a while. I have now read the Divorce Remedy and enjoyed it. It has given me new found inner strength and a better game plan for tackling this. Over time I have cut back the snooping to pretty much nothing. This has helped me a lot in that I'm not reacting to things that may or may not be there. My wife and I have been doing pretty good over the last month or so. We haven't had very much talk about our relationship however, but I can see small changes in her towards me and also the kids which I think is awesome.
I do have a question I need some opinions on. This same band has had very limited times that they have played and my wife wants to go to an upcoming show again. Logistically the drive to and from this event is fairly far. She asked my opinion if it would be alright if she went because she knows it upsets me when she goes. She will be going with a gal that is single. To me it seems like our relationship goes better when she doesn't go to these shows, but I realize she is an adult and I'm not her dad. If I say no, then resentment will set in and we may loose some of the gains we have made. If I say yes, I feel like I am encouraging the interactions with the guy in question. What to do? I assume the answer is to say yes and not say much about it just to try and change my behavior to see what kind of reaction that gets overtime. As a second option, should I tell her how I feel about this again and have her make the decision?
