Deju vu, but new to the online forum...round 2

[mj144]

Well, I took a calculated risk with the talk. I know it is completely against the DB principles, but the way I look at it was that it worked for the better. At least for now. Where I was, I was stuck. My wife was ready to proceed. I wasn't able to detach and GAL like I needed to in the current sitch the way it is, so I took a gamble. I think it worked well.

I think there is a part of the whole DB process that cannot take into consideration the individuals and their personalities. While the methods are solid and they work, they are obviously not fool proof, nor can they always be universal in their approach. Some may agree with me, my guess is a lot will disagree.

Where I find myself after talking with my wife is, yes back at square one. But with where I was and where it was going to go, I think square one is a better place than I was. Like I said, I bought myself some more time, have put myself in a position of more confidence that I can fight the good fight from different battle lines and I think that I have truly gotten my wife to rethink some things, if at the least temporarily. I feel like I am in a better position to detach and GAL then I would be if I stayed.

Don't get me wrong, I am scared s**tless to walk out of my house away from my wife and kids with the hope that it brings us back together, but at least now, I have a foundation for a plan moving forward.