This Storm Shall Pass

[AntoniaB]

I don't think I'm up on your thread, but I'll comment on what you've posted above. "This Storm Shall Pass" is a great thread name because you're being proactive and thinking of a brighter future. My friends always say that the sun will shine again despite the storm clouds now. Hold on to that hope.

I also almost look forward to my divorce being final (any day now) because it means that my H can no longer hold me or us accountable for his problems. Once that divorce is final, his problems are HIS OWN. I relish that day...

I don't understand why I forgive my H. I want to destroy, as in, tear limb from limb, the OW, but him? I am FAR too kind to him. I still don't understand why. I think it might have to do with self-esteem--as in, you believe that only HE gives you self-worth, so that you are willing to accept anything he does to you as ok in order not to lose him. That's a dangerous thing to believe, but I understand it and know I need to work past it.

If your stomach churns at the months ahead, then know this: that we will be here for you. It will be very tough, yes. But you will make it, because we are all here for you. And you probably have family or friends there for you too. But in coming here, you guaranteed that a set group of people would be here for you, and you will make it!!!