Thanks Sanderika, Seeking, Glam, Mila, Rabbit, Jack, Missher, and CW for your responses on Dec 21st. I hope to respond in the next couple days. You have given me a lot to think about. I will admit that right now I am a bit confused about whether I should proceed slowly or more quickly with the flirting. It seems to me that I'm hearing both ideas proposed. What I have been doing seems to be working, so for now I am going to proceed as I have been. Subtly flirty with a few surprises here and there to intrigue XH and keep him off balance a bit.
............so yesterday XH e-mailed me a medium-sized chatty e-mail about his visit to his mother's on Christmas Day. He went in the evening (he knew I'd be there at 1pm). Don't know if he went alone or not............but apparently he wasn't put off by the happy photo I left of XH, X-MIL, and me at his mother's place because he invited me to play TT this week: "Wasn't sure if we were trying to make a TT gig or not....Wed. or Thursday? Let me know if either might work." I waited until this afternoon to reply: "It sounds like your mom had a nice Christmas. When I was there I dressed her in that nice cranberry colored sweater for Christmas and put lipstick on her for her photo.....I wore my clingy cranberry knit dress with the strategically placed peephole, so we looked like twins!"....Then I wrote: "I have plans Thursday but I can play Wednesday. Let me know if this works for you and I will call to reserve “our” table. ;-)"
This evening XH texted me a photo of him standing in his backyard wearing the red and green striped elf hat with big pointy ears with a message confirming that Wednesday TT works for him. If you recall, that was the hat I gave him last week as a "Christmas gift" for him to wear when he is sitting in his hot tub "in the altogether".............I texted back "Nice hat! That was for hot rub wear though!"..........XH will think that when I texted "hot rub" it was a typo.............but it wasn't. Planting seeds...................and having a little too much fun trying to distract XH. (Rabbit, you have been a very bad influence on me! )
Planting seeds...................and having a little too much fun trying to distract XH. 
(Rabbit, you have been a very bad influence on me! 
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