Sanderika, as always I am impressed by your wisdom and perspective and of course, your patience.
Last Christmas H was not speaking to me. We attempted settlement and it was a disaster. In June I contacted him about S's birthday and from then on things between us started to improve. It's like we have come full circle except this time D is involved. D is not backing down and neither is H. There's nowhere to go. D is challenging his behaviour.
I told S that H refused the paperwork. S said, "Obviously he didn't want the papers. He didn't want them from the outset or he would have said I have to work but given you another time." So why doesn't he want them? What is he avoiding? I am feeling very anxious about the finances.
Rabbit, I've had enough now. I do want to read about avoiders and clingers. The funny thing is that usually I'm the avoider and H is usually decisive. I can't do this anymore.
