I can do this...

[AntoniaB]

Incidentally, IB, there is one way to look at the silence that might be positive. Not trying to put false hope out there, but the fact is that the silence may mean that your H is fully and completely wrapped up in the OW and this isn't always a good thing in the end for their relationship. Back when I used to post on the infidelity board, the advice often said that if the LBS could be dark/detached from the WAS, that the WAS would stop "cake-eating" and then get 100% wrapped up in the affair, and often that seems great for them in the beginning but it does also open the relationship up to problems. No longer are they just seeing one another when they're in great moods, but they're trying to negotiate the day-to-day, and sometimes they find it isn't all it's cracked up to be. I mean, according to Penny Tupy's book Overcoming Infidelity, you and I are in the perfect spot right now to heal ourselves and to force our H's to live a life entirely without us, and that is probably better for us in the long run than if they were in and out of our lives confusing the heck out of us, up one day, down the next. It might send them to a place where they realize they went down the wrong path, but it will also put us in a position to better negotiate life without them and be more independent. Every day of independence from them makes us stronger. So maybe that's a silver lining.