I will start by saying that I am sorry you find yourself here. However, you will find that the people on the board either have been where you are currenly, are right along side you in their situation, or have been on the opposite side. In the future please break your posts up into paragraphs.
The following are just my thoughts. You can take them or leave them but I figured I would throw them out there.
I wouldn't threaten D unless you are going to follow through with it. Empty threats will not do you any good and most likely will push him further away and make you appear weak.
You need to live YOUR life the way that you want to live it without any regard for what you H thinks. Do you want to spend time with his family? If so then do it.
Leave the OW alone. It is very unattractive and to be honest it won't do any good unless you H gets rid of OW on his own. Continue to work on you and become the better option, but work on you without thinking about what your H will think.
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
