Thank you so much for pointing me over to your thread on Retrouvaille. I read all 18 pages and am glad that I did. I guess I was mistakenly under the impression that it was group therapy. I am mind reading here but I can only assume my W feels the same way hence her hesitation on attending. However, as we all know that could have nothing to do with why W is hesitant to attend.
Given that you have both attended Retrouvaille and helped with the program do you have any advice on the best way to encourage/ask a spouse to go? As I menioned previously I stated to my W how I felt it was important and asked her to reconsider. However, I will not bring up the topic again, or discuss MC, reconcilation or anything until I know that OM is out of the picture once and for all.
As far as my side goes I have broken things off with GF. It was what I needed to do regardless of if my W and I progress forward with working on our M. I am not happy with the way the discussion with GF started or the fact that it was over the phone vs. being in person. She wanted to discuss her feelings and based on our conversation and the direction it was going I felt that it was the best time to end things.
I have not informed W that my R with GF is over. At this time I am giving W space and letting her be, letting her think and hopefully allowing her to finally cut off OM and move forward with her life and us.
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
