IB - I often wonder about this...can MLC be something that children inherit? My H is the product of adultry. His mother was 35 when she had an affair (was this a case of MLC for her? I don't know) but what is really bizarre is that ALL of my H brothers and sisters have gone through a MLC - all of them between 35 - 40 years old.
Until this happened to my H (who is the baby of the family and the last to go through this)his sisters didn't even realize what had happened to them. Since then, I have had really in-depth conversations with both of them and they are startled at the information I have given them on MLC. They have since then reseached MLC on their own and have admitted that they had all of the signs, emotions, affairs, indifference, selfishness, wanting their life to be different in every way, and then of course the "ah-hah moment" when they stop and say "WTF I am doing!!??" They both remember that moment with such clarity. One of my SIL recovered in time (18 months she was separated from her husband) but they are still together and strong. My other SIL is almost divorced.
I have not talked to my older (12 years older)BIL - who at 35 went through a period where we all felt like he was someone we didn't know. He got a divorce quickly.
We have all talked about how they are just like thier mom - all of them totally messed up. Lots of bad hidden feelings from when they were little and their mom had the affair that produced my H. Too many secrets tear a family apart.
So is it inherited? who knows, but I think there is a strong case for children of a MLC/affair parent to grow up with major issues. Let's all pray that our children are okay when they get older.
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
