I haven't posted much the last few weeks, as there hasn't been much reason to post. I've been trying to do my own thing, take care of my son, etc... However, I had quite a shocker on Christmas Day, and I am hoping to get some feedback from some of you all here. So, here it goes:
I took my son on a ski trip for a few days. My wife didn't want to go, which has been the case with just about every other activity over the past 10 months since she moved out of our home. On Christmas day, I called to say hi and Merry Christmas to my wife and daughter. I asked how the day went, and my wife mentions that she took our daughter to church. This literally blew...my...mind!!!
Why you may ask??? Wellllll, for those who don't remember [much/any of] my story, my wife was born and raised in China. She was baptized in the Catholic Church in 1998, and we got married in a Catholic Church in my hometown in August, 1998. Since then, we have rarely, or should I say never, had the habit of going to church. Since my wife moved out 10 months ago, I actually began taking my children to a 30 minute family service at a Buddhist Church almost every Sunday. It's been good for me, and good for my children. At the worst of my wife's anger, say within the last year or so, there were actually a few occasions where she criticized me for taking our children to "Church". Back around Easter I had wanted to take our kids to a Sunday service at a local Catholic Church, and, at the time, she criticized that as well.
Bottom line, my wife [until Christmas Day] had not stepped foot in a church since our wedding day 12-1/2 years ago. Soooooo, for her to tell me on the phone on X-mas, "Oh, I took Lily to [insert name] Catholic Church down the road. We tried to listen to what the Father was saying, but Lily got jumpy after about 30 minutes, so we left a little early."
As far as MLC "stages" I understand that this may be just part of the confusion/depression, or her processing and trying to come to terms with her "crisis." This is significant on so many levels though. To me, this is not the action of a woman who is planning to file for divorce from her husband (me) in a couple of months. She has not taken any overt steps to apologize, try and come back home, none of that. However, can you all provide any insight as to what this type of action might suggest in terms of what MLC 'Stage' she might be in/entering/leaving? Where could she be mentally/emotionally at this point in time? Could she be coming out of replay?
I've completely left this woman to fight her own demons over the last few months. This action of her going to church, to me, is extremely significant. It's on the same level as say President Obama becoming the first African American ever elected President of the United States. It's that significant!
