I fit the description of the WAW, but HE left .

[Queen_of_Swords]

I am the one left behind. In all the things Michelle talks about I was the one that talked until I was blue, nagged, begged and then...stopped because it was getting me no where. Figured I had to accept the status quo, and never thought of ending my marriage. I did start looking for emotional food elsewhere, validation elsewhere, shared activity elsewhere. I did this because in almost every way he could he excluded me, marginalized me, didn't need/want me.
Yet, I was devastated when he left, thought everything in our marriage was if not great, a temporary dip in the road of life.

Counselor says he left premptively.
How is this addressed effectively? It's not a classic WAW situation. He left September '09, January he told me he wasn't coming back. It's been 15 months, there have been small improvements along the way, but I don't know how long I can live without companionship, a genuine appreciation of who I am, or sex.