Just like most of you...

[sarahani]

here I am in the same boat. Married for 9 years together 15, 2 kids ages 4 and 2. Husband was wonderful for the most part then around April started distancing himself from us, very irretable, and angry. Found out in August he was having an A said it was over, wanted our marriage to work out but everytime he tried NC with her he was extremely depressed and angry at me. He would pick right up and go back to her. In mid September I put him out because I could no longer take his moodiness and deceit. He went to live at his moms and would go back and forth. Whenever he would decide to work on the marriage it wouldn't last for more than 2 days. I finally decided to move in with my parent's. He now lives with his continues to see the OW (denies it)and tells me he has no feelings for me. For the most part he says that the marriage is over and if he ever decided to want to get back together he would let me know. He is now moving out on his own I'm assuming with the OW but won't tell me, I suspect this because he does not want me to know where he is moving. I really love him and want back my marriage...I have tried so many things, the begging crying, the 180, the threatining with the divorce but nothing seems to be working. His family is very supportive and they give him hell for his EA but it seems that he just doesn't care. The only one time he showed signs was when I went out to dinner with my sister and cousin he called me 14 times in a row to find out where I was and I wouldn't answer till I got home, he was furious and said something like oh you're f'ing aroung now and hung up on me!!! I have tried to get rid of the OW but she denies, denies, denies, that they even speak. I need some real help I am at my wits end with his ways! One specific question that I also have is that his family wants me to be involved in their lives, like going over for dinner with the kids and to not stop our regular family things but he still lives there and isn't happy when I do go is it a good idea to act as if nothing is wrong? Thanks any advice will be appreciated!