You sound great. I know there is an emotional toll for handling things like that, but you kept it well inside. Sounds like you had a great Christmas with plenty of plans ahead for New Years. Good for you!
I agree with CW, put the book to work and get rich -- but not until the ink is dry on the D papers! It's be a crying shame to have to share it!
Mila, I was very happy to come here today and read that everything went well and your h behaved himself. Of course he got choked up...who wouldn't? You are a wonderful person and to go the extra mile and invite him over for dinner and share in the gift opening....not many would do that. You were a gracious hostess and yes, he did have stomach ailments last night along with some nice dreams to remind him of what he's left behind.
Read the book, make some notes and then go to work in making your fortune, but as the ladies pointed out...wait until the ink is dry on the divorce decree!
Christmas is now behind you...time to look to the New Year and let's hope and pray that things will settle down and you can move ahead w/o too much trouble. Enjoy the holiday season!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
It sounds as though you had a lovely Christmas together. That was a wonderful gift for your D.
Originally Posted By: Mila
.......he can dream on with the iphone... and BTW he has a perfectly good iphone, but it's not the latest model.....
Originally Posted By: Mila
H had bags under his eyes, when he came he told me that he didn't sleep the night before that his stomach hurts (that's where he carries his stress) and said that "he is coming apart"
It seems that these ^^^^^^ are insights into H's mental status these days. It does kind of sound like what an emotional teenager might think. Has H ever gone through periods of depression before that you know of? I wonder if he tells OW that he feels as though he is "coming apart"?.............I would liked to have been a fly on the wall of your H's place when H and OW got back together that night.
Yeah the "get rich fast book" he probably gave it to me hoping that I will get rich fast so he doesn't have to pay support lol...and BTW he never asked for a divorce so far, never even talked about it, just the separation agreement and I initiated that....
GAG - I never noticed H's depression until spring 2009 ....that's when I noticed him not being himself....we even talked about it...he said he is sorry for not being the best H & friend lately...he is just down, that he will snap out of it, it's just work and stress or maybe going through the male menopause....but you know I just thought we all go through tough periods sometimes...I wasn't that concerned at that time, just was trying to be supportive and understanding.....
Accept for the thank you email yesterday...H has been quiet...but apparently called D yesterday "checking on me" he was concerned if I'm OK....come on I was just a bit tipsy...but I guess it's been a long time since he saw me tipsy lol....and I was happy-tipsy
Went to D's BF's family last night, had a blast with his parents and bunch of young people...came home at 2:30am...tired today....
Tonight going for dinner to our good friends house....looking forward to seeing them....
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
You sound great! You go girl and keep living your life! Maybe someday H will catch up if you're willing, and if he doesn't, well you've laid the groundwork for a wonderful life! Good on you!
I had a lovely evening with my friends while my D & her BF were at H's place for dinner....I was really hoping the he wouldn't include OW in this but he did....sure ruined my evening....
D came back and said that it was really awkward with the OW there and that she was happy that her BF was there with her...it made it easier...
Why is my H such an a**....I'm so sorry that I invited him for Xmas Eve....I thought that we were doing this for D, so she has a nice Xmas memories with both parents....he even sends me an email after saying how happy D was...and then he has her over for dinner with OW....this was the first time that he included OW in his time with D....nice Xmas present for D....what an insensitive thing to do.....I'm angry and I'm done with him today...don't even want to see him or talk to him right now....I'm such an idiot...trying so hard, bending backwards, doing what he wants...visiting his dad with him "as a family", inviting him for Xmas "as a family"....and he has no concern for my or D's feelings...just plowing through with his selfishness....
sorry...had to unload....
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
If your D is upset about this I have a feeling she'll have no trouble in telling her Dad how she feels about what he did.
The MLCer sees nothing wrong with the way they handle things. They feel they are entitled to do whatever they want with no regard as to how it will affect anyone other than themselves. They are very insensitive and selfish.
Has the ow introduced her children to your H?
My kids have made it clear to H that they have no interest in meeting ow. The only one to have met her is the oldest one and that is only because it was unavoidable due to work related events. Otherwise they have clearly let him know that ow is his life, not theirs. Doesn't stop him from mentioning things they have done or are doing as a couple in front of them though.
I'm glad you had a good evening with your friends!
Mila, I'm sorry the ow was present during the evening. The mlcer sees absolutely nothing wrong w/having the OP present during family times. It's all about them and what makes them feel good...no thought to what others may think.
I'm sure that your daughter will enlighten him if it upset her.
As for you, I am glad you had a pleasant evening and let's hope things settle down for a bit. Enjoy your day!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi Mila. I am glad you are having such a good time, socially. Sorry about your D being forced to meet OW. I hope she lets your H know how it made her feel. As everyone else said, the MLCer doesn't care about others really, as long as he is feeling good.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
