OK, you felt guilty about banging the last woman so what do you do...go our and bang another and feel guilty about it. Does this sound like a man who has his sh!t together? It's all about validation, I'm a desirable man if women want me. It's got nothing to do with finding a real R. Btw, you don't want a real R because you are still attached to STBX and your marriage. Admit it and deal with it. It's OK to still be attached but if you know that then don't go leaving a trail of condoms behind you and cry "I feel guilty". You have choices and you're making ones that will just complicate your life and your ability to detach. Sex will not help you detach. You aren't ready to date...simple as that and, again, there's nothing wrong with that!
