I forgot to mention that I told my husband if he was on the fence about whether he wants me or OW, then he needs to leave. If he is committed to trying to see if we can get through this (he knows I have a lot to work through before I can say that I'm 100% ready to make a committment), then I'm OK with him staying here.
I don't know if that was the right move, but I felt it was a way to establish a boundary.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence