when script is not script part 2

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I'm really sorry buenasuerte, it is so common with divorce.
I've been divorced 16 years (came here 2 relationships later, now in the same one 9 years). My ex completely bowed out, moved away. He is just now in fairly good contact with one of my daughters, just sends cards to the other one.

When he did take the kids, his parents spent a good deal of the time with them, and so did his brothers and sisters, which was actually better than them spending time with him. My oldest has a real hole in her heart from all this.

This is one of the reasons why I'm here and fight to help folks save their marriages.

My partner's exwife (he had been married 20 years) is a smart woman, and a wonderful mother. He almost pulled away from his kids, that's the way it was going, in my 10 years on the board, I've seen some wonderful dads, but I've seen a lot of men in our situations, it's more natural for them to disconnect from the whole family. One of the men I dated before I met G was willing to move far away from his son for me, and not turn back. I ended it of course--that's unacceptable to me. But G is now extremely close with his kids, works well with his exW to coparent, has his youngest more than half the time (they live a mile from each other---they don't like each other at all but put the kids first).

What is exW did though was keep encouraging his involvement with the kids. Sometimes by bitching, sometimes by just saying they kids miss you. They need to see you. It worked for them.

Didn't work for me and my exH.

It might be worth a try for you.