I am very sorry that H is having a tantrum. Snodderly and Sanderika have shared some very wise words with you. (Thanks to both of you from me.) I'm wondering if H is being influenced by his mother over the holiday...or maybe is feeling really bad about himself because of his job situation............Regardless, Cas, please be good to yourself. Do something special JUST for you.
I think a lot of these MCLers eventually realize that they have made a mess of everything. I am about to post a story on my thread about the X-brother-in-law of a co-worker who returned to his XW after 7 years.
I am saying a prayer for you this evening that God will comfort you in this difficult time.