I thought I remember reading that you need to be the one that sends the no contact letter. Did you see her send it or did you send it yourself? With you saying "supposedly" it makes me think that you aren't 100% sure if one was sent or not.
What are you looking to accomplish by confronting?
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
The om had sent my W a No contact text almost a month ago took them a week and a half via cell to break that. OM being "committed" to his M. Or that's what he is telling his W so she sent my W a no contact email very specific. Very marriage builders format. That actually seemed to have opened a can of worms and they have had more cell contact since after I confronted her on a long phone call which he supposedly told her it was done no chance he hated her that was lasg week txt and calls went away they went to email figuring we couldn't see any of it. Now we know but my gut and the holiday is giving me mixed signals which makes me think we should watch for another week. Trying to get info from her sis tonight.
H 37 WW 37 M 15 5 Children Bomb 9-27-10 W EA/Pa she filed 12-18-10
Ok should. We confront with current evidence or hold out and watch they were supppssed to be done she even told her sister that and we know they met and have been emailing.
H 37 WW 37 M 15 5 Children Bomb 9-27-10 W EA/Pa she filed 12-18-10
Well exposing would be something different. It could show that the OM is a POS but don't be surprised if he starts backpedaling. Spineless guys like that always do. My W's OM did that.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
So I am ready to just straight out ask her if she has any hope for this M. She already filed but have yet to be served. Still contacting OM via email stupid emails from what I can see. But they are still in contact my gut says just LRT for a couple weeks and monitor email. Collect more evidence. My head says confront her ask her if she wants this to work or not and if no good here's a bag you filed I am primary care giver for kis you leave now. I have been fired up to do that since thursday. need some guidance.
H 37 WW 37 M 15 5 Children Bomb 9-27-10 W EA/Pa she filed 12-18-10
So I am ready to just straight out ask her if she has any hope for this M. She already filed but have yet to be served. Still contacting OM via email stupid emails from what I can see. But they are still in contact my gut says just LRT for a couple weeks and monitor email. Collect more evidence. My head says confront her ask her if she wants this to work or not and if no good here's a bag you filed I am primary care giver for kis you leave now. I have been fired up to do that since thursday. need some guidance.
Go with your gut.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
So I am ready to just straight out ask her if she has any hope for this M.
If you ask her this, be ready to hear her say "no". I'd advise you not to ask her that. If your goal is to save the M, don't ask.
A lot of times, men will put pressure on the W b/c he is tired and wants her to give him encouragement. You want others to do the work, but you have to do it.....not others, KWIM?
If she told you "yes", then you would think that the MR should be back to normal in a few hours.....and it just doesn't work that way.
If she and OM are still emailing, then the EA is not over. They are just being careful right now.
That's why it doesn't work for the OM's W to do the work (like telling your W NC with her H). And you, you were hoping that would be the end to it, but it has to be the one of the two people in the A that ends it. Your W did not take what OM's W said as any kind of threat or pressure b/c OM has done nothing to stop.
So what are you expecting if you expose? Do you think it will cause your W to fall into your arms? Do you think OM will run?
It may or may not end the A, but will it mend your M? That is what you need to consider.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Ok so OM w is ready to crack I can wait but we have all these emails to confront them with. We were not going to expose yet. OM keeps telling his W that he wants to save the M. She was going to begin letting him know that it really felt. Off that he wouldn't be transparent with email they are. Both fully denying email contact. I am waiting for one of them to cave under guilt because that is how everything else came out. So what do I do at this point.
H 37 WW 37 M 15 5 Children Bomb 9-27-10 W EA/Pa she filed 12-18-10
