However, their fantasy is even stronger than caring about what they are doing wrong.
So true! The closest thing to understanding it is to compare with an addiction. Some LBS's hate that term and think it is an excuse for the WAS, but I do not mean it in that sense at all. Drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex......these things appeal to our senses in some way. Whenever it is an addiction, then it has power. I've seen what drug addicts will do to get their next fix. Some would sell the soul of their own child!
I can think back to where I first became vulnerable to an EA. I did not wake up one day and make a decision to get on line and try to meet some other man. It was subtle, you know....kind of like the frog being boiled to death. But after I was in,then I made some poor decisions and took risks, and it's God's grace that I got help before destroying my entire family.
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I gave her the choice of OM or working on our family. She choose OM.
Sadly, that is often the case whenever the WAW is told to choose. The logical thought would be, of course, to choose her family. But, she is not thinking with a logical brain now.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
