wife preparing to leave me and kids

[Kemper]

It takes time. My W is just now starting to somewhat come around. It has been 16 months since the bomb and 9 months since she moved out of the house. For the most part I have left her alone and only engaged in child related discussions. I wanted her to live her life and realize that maybe I wasn't the cause of all the problems.

If you continue to push your W you are only going to confirm what she already thinks. In reading just a few posts I sense some anger, and honestly it is natural but it doesn't do any good to throw anything in her face.

I have a friend that would do really good for a week or so with his WAW, then he would get angry and throw stuff in his wife's face about the A, not working on the M, etc. He continued that cycle for weeks if not a couple of months. Personally I feel that he just recently really dropped the rope and interestingly enough his W seems to be popping up from time to time.

Would you want to have you W constantly telling you that you are making a mistake? Asking you to think about what you are doing? Most people, myself included, would go the opposite direction. I say this because I became involved with another person during my separation. When my W found out about my GF she starting doing the things that I did when I first found out about her A. From the other side it was very, very unattractive. If she wanted to push me away she succeeded, if she wanted to work on our R she was doing something that was never going to work.