wife preparing to leave me and kids

[Kemper]

I will give you insight from my situtation and preface my comments with the fact that we are still separated.

I DID confront my W about the A. I gave her the choice of OM or working on our family. She choose OM.

I DID NOT go out of my way to expose my W's A. However, I did honestly answer questions if people asked. Looking back I am glad I took the route I did. If I had aggressively exposed the A I feel that my W would not have been able to face all the people she "let down". I think it would be harder in that situtation to try and work on the M and wondering what everyone might be thinking about you. I know it shouldn't matter but in life sometimes people care too much about what other people think.

My opinion is they all know what they are doing is wrong, they know they are hurting you, they know they are destroying their family. However, their fantasy is even stronger than caring about what they are doing wrong.

Just yesterday my W made a comment that struck me. She said that her R with OM isn't going anywhere but she has tried to make it work. Why? Because she has been trying to prove that she made the right decision in leaving the family home and turing the M upside down.

You need to make the decision that is best for YOU.