I snooped, checked email and phone records and confronted my W about stuff. She changed her email password and got a non-contract phone from Wal-Mart.

Maybe you can be "done" and start moving on and it will turn around. From what I have seen other people post, if you don't go and file for D yourself, just start living like you're fine with a D (and right now that's what I am getting from your post) then you've truly let go and then there is a possibility of a turn around.

Obviously, I may not be the best one to be giving any advice since I seem to keep messing up. Take a look at mine http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2110657#Post2110657 and you'll see the advice that's been given to me and how, to at least some people, I am still not doing any of this correctly.