Angel61 and Barbsing! Today, I too felt like throwing in the towel, but after reading your posts, I don't feel so alone.
Originally Posted By: angel61
Other things: I read "Love Dare", and although I did not do the dares (Blcch, pursuing! as one DB'er says), it made me see love through Christian eyes, also made me more accepting of rejection, and work on choosing to love unconditionally. It is hard but in the end, it is really for you to have peace and I even managed to forgive (most of the time anyway!)
Sounds like a good book to read. I am working on showing my H love unconditionally, 1 Corin 13. I agree this is very hard to do in the face of adversity, but you will feel better for having done so. Forgiveness is the path to peace and it gives you a sense of victory as well.
Barbsing1, I understand how you feel about the rejection. It is really painfull. I suggest you don't talk about the M with your spouse. Tell him that you don't want to discuss the R anymore. If you are seeing a MC, tell your H that you will only discuss the M during counseling sessions. This helps to set up boundries for your own well being. It allows you to put a stop to the rejection and hurtful things your husband is telling you on a daily basis. Instead you only have to hear it once or everyother week.
Sit down and write a list of what you want to work on for yourself. Someone on my post told me that list is much nicer. It trull is. Work on plan to achieve and complete the list your make for yourself. You need to distract yourself from your marriage. Give you mind and heart a break.
Godbless
M = 10.5 years H = 35 W = 39 D = 10 S = 12 SD = 19 Bomb Dropped = 10/27 EA = April
