He is so wrong about you, everyone knows that. I think it eases his guilt to blame you for his problems. By being able to blame you or anyone else he doesn't have to face his mistakes.
I say: "let him blame you" Smile at him when he is.
I say: "I agree with you, leave him alone" He should be careful for what he wishes for.
I say: "get the solicitor's paperwork to him, pronto" The ball will be in his court to do with as he pleases.
You and D are going to be just fine. One day he will realize that his choice and actions only hurt himself. By then it will be when he is a lonely miserable old man because he pushed his loving family as far away as possible.
I did some reading on the Distancer and Pursuer as was written by Snodderly about 4 years ago.
I understand the issues. I am moving forward without H. I have huge regrets for my enabling actions a couple of weeks ago. I am planning for my demands for Jan. 13th. They will blow H to smitherines.....
I feel sorry for your H and mine, unfortunately they will not face the destruction or hit bottom until they are left alone to realize the mess they are in and have made. And, as they say, it will then be our choice to accept their apologies and welcome them back. My guess is you and I will be some place else in our lives and while we may have a nice conversation it will not be to welcome them back.
You are strong and you will survive this, I know this because you and I are similar and I am surviving. What I thought once would kill me has made me a stronger woman and a better person. I am grateful this Christmas for having had the opportunity to grow and blossom....AND, you are too
I will be thinking of you during this season.
Merry Christmas to you and daughter and son....
(((Warm Hugs)))
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
