I've been divorced 6 years on Christmas Eve. I am an LBS left in the wake of an WAS who never totally walked away. She left her newest husband several times and has now returned once again to our home for what she calls the final time. We are sharing a bedroom but not a bed. Intimacy does not exist between us. We are living as co-parents to adult children and grand children in a brother and sister type relationship. We go places and do things together and she introduces me as her best friend and x husband.
Yes I still love her and and have never stopped. She says not to expect anything from her as far as a romantic relationship goes and that she may never feel that way about me again. Kind of like a sexless marriage ;-)
I have no idea if this will change over time or not. She can't divorce for a year because of some backwards South Carolina State law, even though we live in Massachusetts. So I guess I can stick it out another year and see what happens.
I posted for while in MLC but the redundancy of all the similar situations caused me to stop reading and posting. This is just a post to let you all know that things can turn around from an MLC divorce. To what extent I don't know at this point but will let you know if things change.
A Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all ! DavidA
You vote with your feet. Divorce final 12/24/2004 I Give Up !
David, I remember you and your situation...it's been a long haul for you and your family. It sounds like your xw still isn't sure about her life and where she wants to land permanently. I pray that she finally comes out of her fog and realizes that you and your family are where she should have been all along.
Merry Christmas!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I appreciate your response ! Time will tell as with all things. It's been a long road and it's taken a toll on me in some respects and in others has taught me so many things about life and relationships. I feel I am a better person for it whether she does or not. A Happy Christmas to all ! DavidA
You vote with your feet. Divorce final 12/24/2004 I Give Up !
Thank you for taking the time to come back and update. Even though your sitch is not yet ideal it has come a long way from where it was. I pray that it will continue to get better and better for you and your family.
