Like you, the longer I'm in this, the more I have come to realize that our WAW really don't know what they want. They are confused and have no plan. In some ways, knowing this helps; it seems less personal.
However, as long as your wife knows that you will be waiting; that she can always have you as her second option; she will never put you first. She needs to understand that you come first and you will not accept anything less.
This is the message that I am trying to communicate to my WAW, but it isn't easy since I'm using the LRT and she is having an affair.
I don't understand the fog they are living in. It seems perfectly clear to me that we could bring each other so much happiness, if we just gave it a chance.
