Mila, these guys really are crazy. Just before the bomb and before he left me for OW we took a picture to be framed that I was giving him for his bday. Not surprisingly I didn't collect it, but left it for hm to collect. Three years later, yes, you read it right, he brought it up as a grievnce that I never gave him his bday present! Never mind that he left me and my children, and lived with another woman, in his mind I didn't give him what he was enttled to. (I tought it was both funny and sad)
On the subject of the company, these people have a great sense of entitlement, and they will screw you over if you let them. I did not believe that my h would do the things he did, and is still doing, to get more than his fair share. There are a few who are fair minded, but not many, so please be prepared for an ugly fight, and possibly a distortion of your contribution - very hurtful, but it tends to happen. Even when your lawyer and their lawyer are telling them that something isn't the case, they will go on arguing, and they will spend a huge amount on lawyers, rather than reach a reasonable settlement - sometimes more than the sum being disputed.
Since he may go on a huge spending spree, secure as many assets as you possibly can. If it is there he will spend it, in all probability. My h turned from a careful and prudent man into a crazy spendthrift, and I think many do.
You will likely be accused of being motivated by money, and all manner of unfair things. Remember it is coming from someone who does not see the world straight. It isn't personal, as you know, but it does feel like it.
Despite all of this upcoming, have a wonderful Christmas. Jack 3 beans gave good advice!
