This is definitely a tough Christmas for me. It is bad enough that I feel my children are accepting my wife's live in friend (and I feel that I have been replaced as their father) but a memory that belonged to my children, my wife and I will now be forever altered. My wife and the other person are taking my kids to Disneyworld next October.

As a family, we had gone twice. Last time we went was right before my wife told me she was leaving me. She was already having an emotional affair with the other person and the majority of our trip was ruined with all night phone calls that my wife would make.

Even then, my wife asked me if she and I could go to Disneyworld and stay at the more upscale resort and have fun.

I can't say how much this hurts. I have felt betrayed so many times in the past but this is really hard to handle. It feels as though she is trying to "over write" any of the memories we shared. She has done that with the kids and the other person for apple picking, special places we used to go and so many other things.

I feel like my children have no use for me anymore except for financial issues.

I am trying not to look at the circumstances. This really hurts.


Me:56, W:51
D:26,S:24,S:22
Married:18
Bomb 9/27/06
Separated 11/27/06
Divorced 10/6/08
Leaving it up to God