H talking D again.. after 3 mos. of piecing

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I feel like I don't have a choice. If I stay at the house he is not going to have any respect for me. How can I respect myself and stay living at the house with him while he is having a PA, not coming home at night sometimes, etc. He told me he wants a D. He is refusing to move out of the house. If I move out, I am moving back to my hometown which is 3 hours away. That is where my family/friends are and where me and my H used to live before his job relocation.

If I stay, he is just going to continue to disrespect me and think he can continue to treat me this way and that I am just going to be waiting in the wings. Not to mention, this is the second time he has done this to me. He moved out back in August and had PA with this woman. I let him come back home at the end of Sept. when he started missing me and said he still loved me and was done with her. Now 3 mos. later he has resumed things with her and is wanting a D again.

It seems like it is time for me to move on and focus on ME. If down the road he realizes he made a mistake and wants to be with me again he can move to where I am at and prove to me through his actions that he wants to be with me. It would take awhile for me to trust him again, but if he was willing to move to where I am at it would help as he would be 3 hrs. away from OW and I would be more convinced that he is done with her.

I guess at this point I just can't keep putting my life on hold while I wait for him to figure things out again.

If he was willing to move out I would stay at our house until it sold and the D was final, but living in the same house with him while he has PA is something I can't handle. I would be miserable!

Does this make sense?