Detaching does not have to mean you are giving up on your S, not if you are going to "lovingly" detach and not if your plan is to save your M.

Not sure which link I posted, but here is one.

http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!